13 Oct

This has been nagging at me. For those of you who have started your journey to health and wellness… maybe you can relate. I’ve got some of these comments and frankly I’m really sick of it.  This is one of my struggle areas.

Here it goes:

 “you’re obsessed, you’re addicted to exercise, you’re crazy for being healthy, you need to give yourself a break and have a brownie or pizza or burger… etc., you need to stop being so hard on yourself, you’re making your health too much of a priority in your life, don’t get any more muscles you won’t look good.”

Seriously, people, I’m not making this up. I just don’t get it. This is MY thing, I want to be healthy. I strive to be healthy and for so many years I was living a sedentary lifestyle, eating crap and I was not happy. Now that I am happy, active, and full of energy…Why would they say these things to me now? I don’t go around telling them that they shouldn’t be eating that 5th or 6th slice of pizza or they shouldn’t be frequenting McD’s 5 times a week or drinking soda like it’s water or hey how about you lose 20 lbs, etc.

Let me address some of these so called ‘concerns’. First of all, let’s address the ‘obsessed or addicted’ remark… of course in the eyes of people who don’t typically enjoy working out…. I am!! You don’t enjoy it… I do, I enjoy the pain, the sweat, the being sore the next day, the bruises, it’s fun for ME! It’s like a drug for me… go ahead call me crazy. But listen, this is something I’ve chosen for myself not for YOU. If I choose to start my day off by going to the gym for an hour that’s my deal. How is this affecting you? It’s not! And it’s not hurting me, it’s only making me healthier. I don’t understand why I have to justify this to anyone. Additionally, I don’t understand the need for someone to tell me just because I’m making a good food choice that I should cut myself some slack and just have that bacon burger or whatever 1000 calorie food you’re trying to get me to eat. I’ve come a long freaking way in this journey. If you feel guilty about what you’re eating don’t try to bring me down by getting me to eat the same junk YOU are eating!! And by the way, I do treat myself. Thirdly, yes I’ve come a long way… but I am by no means perfect. Additionally, I’m not striving for perfection. I’ve posting this before…. this journey I’m on is always in progress. It’ll never stop. Everyone has flaws, and I believe everyone is their own worst critic. There are areas I want to focus on, there are areas I want to be better. By you telling me that I need to stop being so hard on myself does nothing but piss me off. It doesn’t encourage me, friend. I got to this point because I was hard on myself and worked my ass off. Did you think that this shit came easy? I put a hell of a lot of sweat, pain and determination into this! I’m nowhere near giving up! Also, I’m making my health too much of a priority… say what?!?! Did you just hear yourself?! That’s probably the single most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard in my life. I have one body… ONE! YOU have one body! I should treat it as a prized possession. Diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, obesity, it all runs in my family. I don’t want to be on tons of medication. If I can prevent any one (or all) of these things from happening to me. Why wouldn’t I? I can make that happen. If I can be a good example for my kids so they grow up with healthy lifestyles. Why wouldn’t I make my health a priority… I love myself that much! I love my family that much to make my health a priority. And lastly, ‘the don’t get any more muscles thing’. Listen, this is my body. I choose what I do with it. And if I choose to have muscles upon muscles upon muscles I will do it. You may not like it, that is your opinion. And you are certainly entitled. I am also entitled my opinion. But I’ve had the decency to not tell you what I think. Let me reiterate…. I’m not harming myself. Until I start harming myself or solicit your opinion, please refrain from saying these things. I was harming myself before when I was 190+ lbs… you didn’t say anything then. Why now… why now when I look great. When I feel great. I won’t be pulled down. I’ll keep going with every bit of determination… if not more.

Thanks for listening to my rants today.



3 Responses to “Naysayers…”

  1. Ginger Smoothy and Otto Pilot October 13, 2012 at 6:55 pm #

    You are absolutely right. Don’t let anyone drag you down to their level. You are doing great, and if people are saying things about it , then it is only because they lack the courage to make the change themselves. You do what is good for you and your body. I find that people these days seem to take better care of their cars than themselves, if your body is not in good health where are you going to live ? I saw that on a poster one day .

    • salinaciotti October 13, 2012 at 7:25 pm #

      Thank you so much for the encouragement, Ginger. I needed that! You are spot on with everything you said!

      • salinaciotti October 13, 2012 at 7:29 pm #

        I just looked at your blog. Sorry I called you Ginger… Your name is Ruth! 🙂

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